Cybersecurity conferences often claim to value diversity, yet their websites, language, and imagery tell a different story: white, male, and exclusionary. Gender diversity is shaped long before the CFP opens, by who is centred, what expertise is valued, and whether organisers confront their own blind spots. From my position as a white woman in IT and cybersecurity, I focus on gender as the “easy” diversity topic we still routinely fail. Drawing on experience as a speaker, organiser, and reviewer, this talk examines performative diversity, structural gatekeeping, and why inclusion is a security-relevant issue.